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On "being made to feel"
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"From:    "Sue Jacoby, IBCLC" <[log in to unmask]>
Subject: Re: Know what the benefits of breastfeeding are

"The decision to breastfeed is a personal one. As a new mom, you deserve support no matter how you decide to feed your baby. You should not be made to feel guilty if you cannot or choose not to breastfeed."

So now we have the US  Federal Government validating the false idea that someone can be "made to feel?"  I would really prefer my tax dollars NOT be spent promoting this victimhood meme.

Huffily,
Sue Jacoby
California"~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

While I agree with you, Sue, in that this was not a needed statement on this webpage, I have to disagree about "making someone feel" one way or another.  That saying "sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can never hurt me," is incorrect.  If you call someone 'stupid,' they may feel stupid, or if not feel stupid, will certainly feel bad.  When girls are told they are bad at math, they get worse at math.  If we told our clients that they are failures at breastfeeding, they will not only fail at breastfeeding, they will give us bad Yelp! reviews.  When we tell our clients they are doing well, they gain confidence and succeed.  Words are extremely powerful.

The other thing I don't like about this quote from the government website is the use of the word "deserve" because it has such a moralizing tone to it.  I like to avoid using the word "should" for the same reason.  
So, speaking of words, what do you all think of the term "emergency baby food" for formula?
Julie Tardos, also in California ==== Anything worth doing is even worth doing badly.

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