Jon,

I really think that you are doing a wonderful job with this birthmother.  I
just have to add my thoughts on the subject.  I am a birthmother who lost a
child to adoption 21 years ago.  It should be up to the birthmother whether
she breastfeeds the baby or not.  I think that she will have a harder time
handing the baby over after breastfeeding.  She will have issues to deal
with for the rest of her life concerning this birth.  I am on two
birthmother lists and I speak for all of us.  Giving up a baby even in open
adoption, is the most difficult thing a woman can do.  Be sure that she
knows what she wants.  Thanks for listening.  If I can help in any other
way, e-mail me privately  [log in to unmask]


Kay Hagan-Haller

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I am only one, but I am one.  I cannot do everything, but I can do
something; and what I should do and can do, by the grace of God, I will do.
--unknown author
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