Tammy and Karen,
As you say in your E-mail that Mum knew the Needs of breastfeeding but
appeared to not acknowledge the benefits of breastfeeding BY Breastfeeding.
I had an incident a while back here. The young mum needed help to feed and
when I arrived Monday morning I was told Bub hadn't fed. I commenced my
prefeed technique in Broken English, Got the Baby latched with Ma-in-Law
overseeing! Bub was feeding beautifully and shortly after the mum signalled
me she was by herself- she said in Beautiful English, she was 'repulsed by
the thought and feel of Breastfeeding her baby'. She would be returning to
work in a Law office as soon as she could! For the Bub that would be
organised!! The baby was her husband's families idea and 'she carried it'
and she had seen her friends BF and Formulas feed- and the kids grew up OK
on formula and she didn't feel that she 'should waste all her training her
Parents had struggled to pay for' cause her Husband's family 'wanted a son'!

I pointed out the advantages of BF'ing for the baby, for her, for the Family
'adding the Blessing bit' and for the community. She wasn't interested as
she had made up her mind that as soon as she could He'd be bottle fed- Again
I told her the disadvantage in this environment. I don't think she cared.
Bonding was not going to be her strong point!
If it had been in Australia I'd been more accepting!
I was stumped for anything to do or say!

Robyn Aulmann RM
Quetta Pakistan

-----Original Message-----
From: Tammy Schilling [mailto:[log in to unmask]]
Sent: Saturday, January 27, 2001 3:23 AM
Subject: Re: independent


Karen and Jim Urbec wrote:

> That strikes me as so sad! That this mom could know about all the "things"
> she "needed" to breastfeed, but didn't learn all the benefits of bf that
> would've convinced her to continue more than a few weeks.

It is sad.  I think this mom got it, intellectually.  Frankly, I just don't
think she cared enough to keep it up.  For many of us who accept that having
a
baby means staying with the baby most of the time, breastfeeding can be a
joy.
For some women, like this mom, who feel like babys just tie them down,
breastfeeding is just another link in the "ball and chain".  I'm not sure
that
for these women they entirely care  about how much breastfeeding is good for
the
baby.  They like the idea, as long as it's easy (right from the start) and
it
doesn't get in the way of anything they want to do.

I don't mean to sound ugly about this mom.  She's not an ugly person.  What
I'm
getting at is that, for some people, children are just not the same type of
priority that we normally hold them to be.

Tammy Schilling
LLL Salisbury

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