Mary Kay stated in her post,

"I've even had moms "ask for the LC" and then totally challenge or refute the
advice or information I give them. If someone can tell us how to address
this,
and do it in the name of "good customer service" let's talk about it."

This thread is a familar one for me as well and when you posted on it again,
Mary Kay, it brought to mind what a few moms have said about the film I give
my BF class moms to take home and view.  It's Chloe Fishers, "Coping With the
First Week" and in it a mom is being helped with latch, totally hands-off
helping, and she has to repeat latching several times.  Moms have come back to
class and said it is a great film but they hated the part where mom is "made" to
keep trying with latch.  I learned to point out after the first time I heard
this that yes, it's hard to be told you're not doing something right, but the
midwife is only trying to prevent future problems.  I also remind them that the
baby in the film doesn't even feed until correctly latched.

I would guess these particular moms who object to this practice of latching
see it as criticism and would need lots of TLC and acknowledgement of their
frustation and even, anger, about working on latching.  It's interesting to me
how frequently moms and moms-to-be aren't/don't think about baby and the effect
of things on him, but are so caught up in themselves.  These are the moms that
need lots of stroking and ego building, I think, and I often mentally have to
remind myself not to get miffed with what often seems like
childish/narcisstic behavior.

Barbara Latterner, BSN, RN, IBCLC




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