Dr. Newman has a point - we are often too thin-skinned - in fact, I even
took a course on "How to be more thick-skinned"  because I recognize it as
a problem.  I WOULD have "run in the bedroom" when others disagreed with
me.  Now I'm learning to stay, listen, and then decide for myself whether I
want to change my mind (horrors - I was "wrong???") or stick to my point of
view and say "it works my way for me, your way for you" - and maybe I'll
get you to change your mind after a while...

Right now we have a very supportive doctor - in most ways - but he insists
on handing out a list of foods breastfeeding moms cannot eat.  The list is
extensive and depressing for most first-time moms.  We have agreed to
disagree, and I have noticed the list is getting shorter and is now being
given to moms after babies show some signs of irritability instead of to
all moms.

PS - WAY back I had a very strong letter from an MD who told me I was not
to send his patients to have their frenulums cut.  You all helped me to
write him and not "hide in my bedroom".  He still disagrees with me -
strongly - but he sends me his patients.  And I tell them what I see and
explain he disagrees with me and they should decide what they want to do.
I also give them the name of the maxilo-oral physician who does the
diagnosis and treatment (not a competing pediatrician).  So - I guess we
agree to disagree, but the moms are getting the help they need...

Jeanette Panchula, BSW, RN, IBCLC, LLLL
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Lactancia Materna '98 - La Mejor Inversion