One of the best things that I learned at the 2007 LLLI Conference was 
from a session by Karin Cadwell, Case Studies in Breastfeeding: 
Skills and Strategies.

She suggests using the phrasing, "What matters to you about breastfeeding?".

If you ask a mother "Why do you want to breastfeed?" or "What are 
your goals for breastfeeding?" you are likely to get a canned answer 
in which the mother tells you what she knows is the 'correct' 
response ("it's better for the baby", "at least six months", etc). 
This doesn't give you any insight into her *personal* motivation or 
commitment.

Asking what matters to her about breastfeeding can help you get to 
the heart of things and clarify the mother's position.

I wonder if the Magic Fairy in this case could be a mothers' support 
group -- it sounds as if this mother would really benefit from being 
around other breastfeeding mothers and experiencing the increased 
oxytocin levels that all women have in such surroundings.

Margaret
Longmont, CO

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