Dear all,

There is a solution to the attachment parenting daycare dilemma - it's  
a special kind of daycare called 'Mother'. The only drawback of course  
is that our economies are set up so that they do not recognise her  
work as work and do not pay her for it.

Imagine this: shampooing poodles is a job; selling ringtones is a job;  
raising mink is a job; selling debt is a job; gambling with other  
peoples' money is a job; raising the next generation of nurses,  
miners, farmers, etc - that's not a job.

Growing sugarbeet to coat pills, that's a job; making pigs fat is a  
job; growing the only necessary food for human beings - that's not a  
job, that's a leisure activity.

Arranging sauce in a fancy swirl on a plate is a job; flipping burgers  
is a job; delivering essential food to young consumers in a way that  
gives them exercise and emotional security - that's not valuable,  
that's just for fun.

What kind of world do we live in?!

Rachel
(Who will shortly be doing daycare for a 15-month grandchild one day a  
week. We are fortunate that our foremothers in Britain fought the  
battle to get statutory maternity leave for 9 months to a year: now we  
need to defend it.)



(snip)

I do have a number of mothers that voice their concern to me about how  
their
baby will do in daycare since they are used to being held all day.  I  
feel
for
these mothers and babies.  I am not sure how to help them.  It would  
be nice
if we had "attachment parenting" daycares!

**Hi Christine,

Richard Bowlby had worrying things to say about this in Vienna at the
VELB-conference... He explained about the importance to a child of a
trustworthy primary attachment figure. He said concern is justified,  
if a
child spends many, many hours a week in child/day care. It can then be  
very
confusing for the infant who the primary attachment figure is,  
especially
when the carers in the facility are not constantly the same. A child  
needs a
primary attachment figure and preferable a secondary as well and if the
carers change and the parents are only with the awake child for a few  
hours
a day... who should he attach to...? I'm definitely going to get  
deeper into
that, when I start reading John Bowlby's trilogy 'Attachment and Loss'.
Richard said that 'A Secure Base' is worth reading as well; I finished  
'The
Making and Breaking of Affectional Bonds' a while ago and he  
recommended 'A
Secure Base' as a follow up.

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