I commend any HCP who openly recognizes this major issue for moms. IMO,
mentioning anything negative as anticipatory guidance is an area where we must
tread very lightly. Most mothers hear enough from other moms (or the media)
about the "difficulties" and need to hear from us that whatever problems
arise, someone can help them deal, and move on to enjoying their baby.
I often recognize the touched out mom in two ways. The first looks tired,
frazzled, worried, which I can acknowledge with, you look tired. This is
usually opens up the flood gates to discussing being touched out.
The second looks too well put together, sits quietly. If I suspect this is in
appearance only, I might say, things must be going very well for you, you look
great. Obviously, you are doing well and getting enough rest. The reply is
often, not really. The common factor is they all appreciate the recognition of
their situation (of course they often feel it is only them) Validation is
everything to their self esteem, which is often very low at this point. This
is also where the tremendous benefit of mother to mother support groups is
evident. There is great comfort in hearing of similar experience, as well as
positive role models of moms who have been there and "survived"
Touched out moms are also easily led to giving up bf (after all thats the
reason for what they are feeling right?)
Susan Wittner, RN, LLL, feeling like waving the banner in support of
supporting moms