Chanita,
      It may just be semantics, but you are not supporting bottlefeeding -
you are supporting a mother's informed choice to bottlefeed. It is a shame
that this mom feels as she does, perhaps with experience, baby-love,
normalizing hormones, or therapy, this mother and her baby may still have a
chance. Your support of her educated decision may allow her to change her
mind without "baggage" in the future. Even if she doesn't, you fulfilled your
role  as a BF supporter beautifully. I have posted privately to someone who
may have some insight on how these moms can be helped. I hope she is able to
reposnd. All the best, Judy Fram,. Brooklyn, NY