Helen writes:

The only  criticism my husband has ever made was  'you breastfed her too 
long,  she's  far too independent for her age!'  Forget what age, but  sometime in 
the  early/mid teens
 
~~  Apologies if this was mentioned, but I don't use the term  'extended' 
because it makes it sound like short durations are the biological  norm. I like 
to call it Full-tenure nursing, or normal nursing, or just ally it  with 
timing, Toddler/Preschooler nursing, and remind of the norm and  human expectation 
for this, etc. If someone uses the term "extended" I  clarify to sadly admit 
that according to US cultural norms, yes it is extended  farther.
We also joke about the "clingy threat" statements we heard, especially  funny 
when watching one's 5 year old parasail hooked up to her big brother just  
for the needed weight, watching same child tube behind a speedboat at age 1 with 
 mom and by 2 or 3, alone! Same "overly dependent child" who was not ready 
for  preschool at the "recommended age of 3" ran into class at age 4, sang in 
front  of a packed worship service at age 7 and co-preached with mom at age  15.
 
OH yes, so many problems with dependency issues...:) I think one important  
thing my children learned, even as much as independence, is the importance  of 
loving and reciprocal interdependence. Oh and I think it helped me learn this  
too...:)
 
Peace,
Judy

 
 
Judy LeVan  Fram, PT, IBCLC, LLLL
Brooklyn, NY, USA



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