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Date: | Thu, 7 Oct 1999 22:37:55 -0400 |
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I had to respond to Barbara Wilson-Clay's remarks about how perhaps teens
who've been attachment-parented may be less aggressive. You all may
remember that I've talked about my 17 y/o football player.... hardly a
non-aggressive activity. BUT. Off the football field (or hockey rink,
sigh, he chose really dangerous sports!), he is just the nicest, most
even-tempered helpful person. Dh last night got to listen to him tutoring a
classmate in calculus and was impressed with his patient teaching. And when
he does get angry - as he did last week when his orthopaedist told him he
had to wait five more days before resuming football! - he does turn it
inward, interestingly - I never thought about this, Barbara! For a couple
of days we were treated to few words through clenched teeth, sigh.
(and while he may not be aggressive, he is competitive: he's re-taking the
SATs this weekend not because he did poorly first time around, but because
two of his friends did *better* than he did and he is sure he can beat them,
sheesh.)
And while cherishing my kids who do seem to be pretty good adverts for AP, I
am mindful of the many kids who are struggling *despite* AP, as Ilene
pointed out. I think the bottom line is that this sort of responsive
parenting maximizes the child's possibility of reaching his or her
potential: many other internal and external influences can interfere,
though.
Mary Renard
Vienna Virginia USA
looking forward (:-p) .....to a COLD football game tomorrow night in which
Michael will finally get to play!
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