This may sound hokey, but it works with children.  Perhaps it will work (or
at least give food for thought) with adults.

When a new member arrives in a family, the "love bucket" of each member
gets BIGGER, not smaller.  In other words, our capacity to love INCREASES.
It does not remain the same.

You might ask this mother who is fearful about getting too attached/close
to her second baby whether she felt that she should not have had her first
baby for fear her love for him/her would interfere with her love for her
husband (ie, take away her feelings of love/intimacy/attachment with him)?
Another way to put it is, did she and her husband limit love-making so as
not to take her "limited" love away from her baby?


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