I don't know how you all get the email to reprint the part of the email you
are responding to, so I'll just respond. What I meant to say is that I just
don't waste time trying to convince Jewish parents not to circumcise. But it
is a great point you make, Heidi, and one that I need think about. Everyone
chooses "their hill to die on", or their line to hang on, to probably
mis-quote Kathleen. I have tremendous problems with the Ezzo philosophy and
unfortunately come across it very often in So. California. I don't delve
into the religious aspects of it at all, because not being a Christian my
knowledge of scripture is very poor. I do say things like "I understand your
desire to follow a system you believe in. Let me just say that medically it
is known that... " and continue with "looking at each nursing dyad, and
individual mom and baby in the dyad, I consider all recommendations to be
guidelines, and not hard and fast rules, because individual differences need
to be taken into account." I'm sure (at least I hope!) I don't sound like
such a 'droid when talking to actual people, but I don't go into the
mothering aspects, because I learned the hard way, as mentioned by someone
earlier, that these people don't really care about my opinions of their
parenting. I do feel bad for the babies though, and try to inject as much
modeling as I can regarding holding the babies, etc. I have come right out
and said that I disagree with the Ezzo's breastfeeding ideas, and have asked
the mom to work with me, that I would tell her what I know to be true about
breastfeeding, and that if she is uncomfortable with doing what I suggest,
she needs to be honest and tell me that- a plan of care is only good if
people are going to follow it, no matter how well intentioned it might be.
I hope I finally have gotten the subject part right. :)
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