Dena -- how awful for you --
I would find out of this was a hospital-wide attitude, in line with hospital protocols, or the nurse's personal approach..
If the former, write the administration to advocate a more breast-feeding supportive approach, and hope/plan to have successive deliveries (if any) elsewhere.
If the latter, the nurse's own approach -- report the nurse!!! ( If you feel up to it,
write the nurse as well.)
Chanita, RN, in San Francisco