So sorry to hear your sad news!!! I will share my personal experience
for what it is worth...
I have two beautiful daughters which were born after 5 pregnancies that
didn't make it. I never got any good answers as to why my earlier
pregnancies didn't work---each time I found out the pregnancy would not
continue because the baby's heartbeat couldn't be found. Soon cramping
and bleeding would start, then I would end up having a D and C (and
much grief....).
Then I had my oldest daughter and nursed her through my next pregnancy.
I don't know why these two pregnancies succeeded and the others
didn't. I guess I have learned to live in the "grey" area of life
where there aren't easy answers. (I was sure glad to have the chance to
breatfeed both my girls after waiting so long for them! What a
treat...) Hang in there and know our thoughts and prayers are with
you.
Laurie Dulle BS, IBCLC Dayton, Ohio