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Hi, My name is D'etta Z. I have a son who is five weeks old, his name is =
Forrest and he has a bilateral cleft palate.  I didn't find out about =
the cleft until he was about two hours old, and I was trying to breast =
feed him. It seemed that all of my images of my "perfect" boy went up in =
smoke. I automaticaly  put on a strong face and didn't let my family =
know just how upset I really was. By doing this I didn't "bond" with my =
baby right away  and suffered many emotional problems because of the =
face. Depression followed me for about two weeks after this.  I also =
thought that his cleft was my fault, meaning I didn't do the right =
things  when I carried him.  I'm doing a lot better now and I have =
finally "bonded" with my child.  Forrest is to have surgery in the =
middle of July. .=20

 A question:   Is it common for CA children to have a larger gap between =
their thumb and fore finger? Also if the gap is larger will it affect =
them in any other way later on in life?

 I'm using Jude Kurokawa's computer. I'm the reason she is online in =
your cleft program.

D'etta Z.
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