When my younger son was about 10, he heard a radio pop psychologist say,
"If you let that baby in your bed, you'll never get him out."

"That's a LIE!" Eric said.  "You certainly have a strong feeling about
this.  Why did *you* finally stop coming into our bed?"  "Well, you know," he
said, "It's a funny thing.  When I was little, every time I needed you, I
woke up.  But then when I stopped needing you, I just stopped waking up."

Interesting that *his* perception is that he woke when he needed me, not
that he needed me when he woke.

A co-LLLeader says her third child had only a so-so relationship with
dad... until she changed their sleeping order in bed.  It had been baby,
then mom, then dad.  Once she put baby in the middle, baby and dad really
started to hit it off.  After all, they were spending 8 hours a day in
body contact.

She also noticed a "reverse SIDS effect."  Her husband is prone to sleep
apnea.  She noticed that when dad and baby napped together, baby would
stir whenever dad's breathing stopped.  The baby's stirring would rouse
the dad, and they'd both continue to sleep as if nothing had happened.
Lovely!

Diane Wiessinger, MS, IBCLC, LLLL Ithaca, NY

and please, folks, help me get that excised-and-still-draining breast
healed.  I'd sure hate to see nursing fall apart when they've come so far.
Does she pull the drain?  Nurse more?  Nurse less?  Massage?  Ice?  Heat?
Help!