Dear Lactnet Friends:

How helpful is it to tell women to "get more help at home so you can rest?"
"Make sure you have somebody at home..."  What about single mothers?
Mothers whose partners are working full-time and not at home.

23% of women are back to work  by 2 weeks. What are they supposed to do,
when they are with their babies for maybe 2 or 3 hours a day. She's away
all day at work, and can't sleep with her baby at night. . .so when does
she get to be a mother?

We are trying to make it okay to tell women to do everything but the one
thing that would work: i.e., put the baby in bed and breastfeed and
everybody sleep.

Why show a baby sleeping in a car seat? Car seats are for cars only....they
are used far too much in the home "because that's the only place he'll
sleep."

How often do grown-ups sleep through the night?

We have made being a mammal, with all those natural built-in survival
mechanisms, into a huge problem. It can't work.

Newborns will always be stone-aged at birth; James McKenna gave a talk
about this "Stone-Age Babies in a Space-Age World."

The babies can't help what they do, which is everything they can to get
what they need. Mothers are being taught to disconnect. The result is a
battle. . .

sigh.

-- 
Nikki Lee RN, BSN, Mother of 2, MS, IBCLC, CCE, CIMI, ANLC, CKC, RYT
Reviews Editor,* Clinical Lactation*
www.nikkileehealth.com
*Communications are confidential and meant only for whom they are
addressed.*

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