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Nina writes:
>Hi Christine
>Why does this have to be a one-size-fits-all policy. Unlike
>Heather, I don't find the idea of visitors in the hour or two after
>birth monstrous - if the mother wants them there.
If a mother *genuinely* wants more than one or two visitors in the
hour or two after birth, then I am hard-pressed for an argument why
her wishes should not be accommodated....except to say how difficult
it would be for a mother to express this choice freely if she has
domineering relatives. And how does the HCP step in to say 'STOP
passing that baby round like a bowl of popcorn!' when the relatives
make the most of their photo opportunity?
There are sound *clinical* reasons why peace and quiet are best for
the baby, and for getting breastfeeding going.
I am sure there are some families - Nina's, for instance - who are
wonderful, supportive and don't all want to pass the baby round them
all.
But I still think the best solution is to have Rules which are
adhered to. No one - no mother, no baby - suffers any loss or
inconvenience if she is not surrounded by family immediately after
birth. They can all wait a few hours. They are grown up and can defer
their gratification.
Heather Welford Neil
NCT bfc, tutor, UK
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