Henya writes:
I have been thinking about this a lot.
At what point do we give up.
And stop thinking about these cases.
~~~ Henya, All I know is that I feel your pain...There are families who
continue to haunt my thoughts for years, probably always will. Some we can let
go of easier than others when we know we've offered the best and most
caring information and support and guidance as we can, or as the family will
allow us to. Sometimes the only thing that helps is miraculously seeing a mom
and smiling baby that I have been able to help along the way, just when
feeling particularly low. This has happened many times over the years, but
less so recently since I've seen many more moms in other neighborhoods.
Still, I got to see today a mom I worked with with her first and now her second
child, this one now 8 months, nursing well, mom happy, and both looking
great, just strolling down the street. It's a priceless gift. Maybe you can
let yourself remember all the moms that allowed you to help them. We can't
help families who, whatever they say they want or will do, just cannot follow
through. Sometimes it's not just ok, it's critical to let go, for a
moment, a day, a week, or for good, depending on how things go over time.
Peace, J
Judy LeVan Fram, PT, IBCLC, LLLL
Brooklyn, NY, USA
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