Debi,
Does your hospital have a policy on the use of donor milk? If they do not perhaps this situation will be the impetus for developing one. You may find a paper I wrote about the ethics of milk sharing helpful. It can be read at http://media.clinicallactation.org/3-3/CL3-3gribble.pdf Finally, who has legal responsibility for this baby in terms of being able to make decision about medical treatment? It may not be the people who are planning to adopt this baby and this should be considered in terms of what treatment is provided.
Karleen Gribble
Australia
On 09/05/2013, at 7:07 AM, Debi Neverman, RNC,IBCLC wrote:

> Haven't run into this before so I need the wisdom of all to assist this new family.
> 
> Neonate up for adoption, birth mother gone, adoptive parents in from out of state. Baby needs to stay 5-7 days in hospital due to unforseen reasons. The adoptive Mom has had frozen (sort of) expressed breast milk sent it to her by a "friend" from out of state. did NOT feed to neonate. ***Milk bank not involved.**** She wants her friend to send more.
> 
> I have very deep feelings about this situation. Anyone have a similiar situation before and if so, what was your result? Thank you for taking the time to respond.
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