kathy:

   how about trying some "nursing strike" remedies with this mom....one on
one time, bathing, cuddleing skin to skin, nusing when sleeping....reduce the
pressure to come to the beast while increasing the one on one time and
relaitonship....

   also many mothers, more than anyone owns up to nurse with nipple
shields...some times for long times....

  reassure her that there are milk banks with milk if necessary...

          patricia