That's precisely the problem:  we can't erase the frames that people put
around our messages.  (I'm referencing the Berkeley Media Studies link that
I posted a few days ago RE: this same topic.)  We can say the exact right
thing, but it will always be framed by what our audience already has in
their minds.

We aren't in control of the response we're eliciting, which is why we need
to keep those frames in mind when we speak, and speak accordingly.  The
notion of The Good Mother isn't going away; it's as old as motherhood
itself. (Again, referencing the link I previously posted, so please read
that before any assumptions are made about what I'm talking about here).  We
stand to benefit the most (and thus benefit the most mothers) by learning
about the frames moms bring to the table and then using them to help our own
cause.

On Fri, Jun 11, 2010 at 1:29 PM, Tina Carlson
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>  {QUOTE}I would add that breastfeeding is about much more than infant
> nutrition.  It
> is not an infant feeding system, best accomplished nipple to mouth.  It is
> a
> relationship.  Part of the beauty of breastfeeding is that it helps mothers
> to love and nurture their babies, capitalizing on instinctive behaviors,
> hormones, senses, etc.
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> Mary Wagner-Davis, MS, MFT, IBCLC, LLLL
> Roseville, CA  {/QUOTE}
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> As a  breastfeeding advocate, I would agree with this statement, but I
> think that using the "bonding" argument for breastfeeding is where we run
> into the most trouble.   A mom who wants to breastfeeding but who cannot do
> so would feel the most guilt over this line of thought.   Whereas, a mother
> who chooses not to breastfeed will yell the loudest that they are just as
> good mothers, just as bonded with their children, and just as nurturing.
> Breastfeeding does not guarantee that the child will not be abused at some
> point in their life, or even that they will be fed organic, natural food for
> the next 18 years.  Not breastfeeding does not mean the child has been
> abandoned, or that the child will be fed McDonalds five times a week.
>
> I think we need a new line of thought for promoting breastfeeding that does
> not imply "good" or "bad" motherhood on any level.
>
> Tina Carlson, PPD, CLC
> CT-USA
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