Susan writes:

Distant  from the baby so a s not to spoil them, then hovering too much 
during the  childhood years. 
I read in a Ladies Home Journal several years ago that  mothers who know 
they are returning to work often hold back on their bonding  in anticipation 
of the pain of separation from the baby during the work  day. 


~~~
In a similar vein, I am being told by parents that the same local  
pediatrician who tells mothers they do the best for their babies by letting them  
cry it out so they sleep 12 hours a night, in a row, at 8 weeks of age,   also 
says that they also shouldn't try to breastfeed or pump more/wean their AIM 
 supplemented infants off the AIM if they are going back to work in a few 
months  because they will probably need to use it then anyway.  My other 
favorite  new quip was the mother who called me very upset about having to wean 
herself  from the pumping she did so religiously for her 6 month old, never 
latching baby  who was exclusively breastmilk fed, because the MD told her 
that mother's milk  after 6 months was, and I quote: "insignificant" to the 
baby. She was made to  feel she was being SELFISH, only caring about HER NEED 
to give her baby her milk  ( which meant nothing at all to the baby) by 
spending time pumping, taking time  away from the baby. So much for 
evidence-based practice. The really sad thing  is, mothers love these doctors...
 
Peace,
Judy
 
 
Judy LeVan  Fram, PT, IBCLC, LLLL
Brooklyn, NY, USA

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