Wauw Marianne,
What a story.
I will remember the saying. You are not an Human Doing, you are a Human
Being !!
Also from the Netherlands,
Marijke Frings
Reading Lactnet mails twice to three times.
2009/11/27 Marianne Vanderveen-Kolkena <[log in to unmask]>
> Hi all,
>
> Leslie wrote about what she does and doesn't DO in the delivery room
> straight after birth and how she feels s2s is so important, without the
> pressure of having to achieve something.
> I want to share a beautiful saying I heard last week from my cousin. She's
> a widow with two girls who are now 11 en 8; their dad died about two years
> ago, victim to long cancar (after bone cancer...).
> She found a friend in a man living in her neighbourhood. He's a widower who
> lost his wife two weeks after the birth of their premature baby, with the
> elder son then 8 yo (they had lost several still born babies in the eight
> years in between... :-( ...) His son is now 16, his daughter 8.
> They had been drawing closer together for quite some time, feeling the
> preciousness of having someone to share things with again, someone who also
> had gone through such a great loss.
> You won't believe it... my cousin saw how her friend wasn't feeling well
> couple of months ago. Turned out he had intestinal cancer... :-(
> It was a roller coaster they went through. She described it as standing on
> a very small, very narrow bridge with an incredibly wild raging river
> running underneath.
> Several difficult situations occurred with the in-laws on both sides, the
> sides of the deceased partners. All of it made everything extremely
> complicated for the couple that was still finding their way.
> He was operated, operated again and once again due to complications and
> almost didn't make it. They were about to start chemo and radiation and
> now... doctors have found that he is clean!
> There is no need for more treatments! They were preparing for a difficult
> year and now suddenly they have a whole new perspective, for his life AND
> for their relationship.
>
> My cousin was so tired and sad and relieved and angry and happy and...
> well, you know how you can feel under difficult circumstances with
> adrenaline rushing through your veins.
> She hardly knew what to do and what not to do. She happened (?!) to attend
> a lecture from someone a week or two ago and she picked up the saying I
> think is also relevant to our field.
> The lady giving the presentation said: "Sometimes you just have to calm
> down and let it be. You are not a humen DOING, you are a humen BEING!"
>
> Warmly,
>
> Marianne Vanderveen IBCLC, Netherlands
>
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