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From: "heather" <[log in to unmask]>
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Sent: Monday, March 23, 2009 9:19 AM
Subject: Re: [LACTNET] Cross-Nursing article

**Hi Heather,

> Actually, the science would be reassuring on that - as long as the nanny 
> is the same nanny, and does not leave when the child is still young, and 
> as long as the nanny really loves the baby (both conditions not always 
> fulfilled). The baby in this situation would attach to both the nanny and 
> the mother (eventually).

**In Vienna, though, Richard Bowlby told how his father John, founder of 
attachment theory, attached to his nanny in the way described and saw *her* 
as the primary attachment figure. John was heartbroken when the nanny left , 
so it can be okay to put a nanny in that role, but only if you can be pretty 
sure the nanny will stay with the family for a long, long time.
Richard said there was an interesting question to ask in this respect: ask 
an adult by whom he was raised, and quite likely you will get the name of 
the primary attachment figure. Very interesting.

Warmly,

Marianne Vanderveen IBCLC, Netherlands

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