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Dear all:
I think Liz is on the right track about bonding in looking into the elements such as
cosleeping and skin to skin that promote bonding.
I think Nikki posted about Harlowe's monkeys not bonding with the bottle in wire mesh
(and if anyone has any references to the original articles on this, I'd love to read them)
got me thinking about this.
I really don't think that baby's bond to the "object" that feeds them. They bond through
the interaction that occurs while feeding. It may very well be that the imposed
interaction of skin to skin contact and closer enough proximity for eye contact sets up the
conditions for appropriate bonding. It is far to easy to not interact while feeding a bottle
that is propped up or feed a baby sitting in some contraption while they are NOT close to
you. The time of interaction can be much shorter, especially if you stuff the baby with so
much milk that they can't eat on a normal frequency of 8-12 feeds per day because their
bellies are so distended.
So, whenever I get asked about "dad's bonding through the bottle" I actually say that
baby's don't bond to the object and go on a riff about what does promote bonding. Then,
"if you do choose to bottle feed, it is the interaction while feeding that creates the
bonding so mimic the contact and interaction that NORMALLY occurs while
breastfeeding.....
Best, Susan Burger
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