I just came from the ILCA conference and maternal and infant sleep were 
addressed by one of the speakers Libby Rosen, BSN, ABD, IBCLC.  According 
to this topic we have been mislead by folks who write books like "the baby 
whisperer" and "baby wise".  I couldn't agree more.  We are a selfish society in 
general.  Think about it.  We need to slow down and not try to get a million 
things done during the day.  We need to sleep when baby sleeps (naps) and 
eventually according to research babies will change their sleep from day to 
night by a few months.  Most baby's sleep an average of 14 hours/24.  Usually 
only 6 hours is at night.  It's the folks who write about the forementioned 
books that should be appalled at what they are telling new parents.  

Being a mother myself, was the most unselfish thing i have ever done.  It 
wasn't about me anymore.  Ya, I loved getting 8 hours of sleep.  But having 
my daughter changed that, and it changed me even more.  Parenting is about 
giving up our desires to meet the needs of a baby human.  They need us. Not 
just during the daylight, but just as much if not more when the sun goes 
down.  I personally am a big advocate of co-sleeping.  It just felt like the right 
thing to do.  Keep my baby close.
off the soapbox now.

glad to be home and in my own bed,
robin

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