How sad, Pat...
It's true: we don't owe everything we do and can to our parents (some set
lousy examples...) and neither can we blame them for everything (some are
marvelous rolemodels and are neglected nevertheless because the offspring
lets itself get carried away and doesn't take good care of its talents and
(genetic or cognitive or material) heritage...).
All you can do as a parent is try to get them off to a good start with
dedication and perseverance on your own behalf. One day, letting go is in
order, but that is more difficult, when they don't seem to be able to take
over responsibility. I hope you can find a balance between being there for
him and looking well after yourself.

Warmly,

Marianne Vanderveen, Netherlands

----- Original Message -----
From: "Pat Young" <[log in to unmask]>
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Sent: Wednesday, August 20, 2008 1:06 PM
Subject: Re: [LACTNET] breastfed or not


> Then there is my "breastfed for 2 years" son, who has Crohn's, testicular
> Ca, is obese and an alcoholic :-(  I did the best I could for him and some
> other genes won :-(  Pat in SNJ

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