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Dear Pat,
Ferber recanted his statements against cosleeping in an article in
the November 8, 1999 issue of the New Yorker magazine. Here is a
link to the article in its entirety:
http://www.booknoise.net/johnseabrook/stories/self/baby/ The part
you want is about two-thirds of the way in.
"I confessed to Dr. Ferber that we were sleeping with our baby. 'We
bring him into our bed, or my wife nurses him to sleep and then puts
him down--anyway, he almost never goes to sleep on his own. And I'm
worried that he's going to get in the habit of it....' I trailed off
guiltily.
"Dr. Ferber's voice was reassuring. 'Well, several things could
happen. He might settle at around six months and start sleeping
better. Then you've got no problem, if you're happy with the
co-sleeping. Or his problems might persist, and the longer they go on
the harder it will be to overcome them. At any rate, he's still young
enough that you've got some freedom to decide what you want to do.
Because either co-sleeping or putting him in his crib can work.'
"'But it says here in your book...' I read him two sentences I had
read to my wife during one of our 2 A.M. showdowns: 'Although taking
your child into bed with you for a night or two may be reasonable if
he is ill or very upset about something, for the most part this is
not a good idea.' And, 'Sleeping alone is an important part of his
learning to be able to separate from you without anxiety and to see
himself as an independent individual.'
"'I wish I hadn't written those sentences,' Ferber replied. 'That
came out of some of the existing literature. It is a blanket
statement that is just not right. There's plenty of examples of
co-sleeping where it works out just fine. My feeling now is that
children can sleep with or without their parents. What's really
important is that the parents work out what they want to do.'"
I don't know the answers to your other questions but I hope this much
is helpful!
Margaret
Longmont, CO
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