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In a message dated 1/24/2007 2:13:40 P.M. Eastern Standard Time,
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What are some of the tenets in *your* personal code of ethics?
Diane Wiessinger, MS, IBCLC Ithaca, NY USA
_www.wiessinger.baka.com_ (http://www.wiessinger.baka.com)
Interesting question. I try to always remember that the ultimate goal of
every mother baby relationship is for the mother to feel right about herself
and her mothering. The early years of breastfeeding matter, but so will the
years to come beyond that. If I make her distrust herself or feel a failure as
mother from the beginning, I worry it may follow other decisions she will
need to make as mother. Breastfeeding, breast milk feeding, all alternatives
available are not the most primary issue. The issue is the mother needs all
the information I can offer her and my trust in her to know how to use it.
Even when I think I would do different, I hope my message is that I trust her to
know what is right and best for her baby and herself. I see so many
trainwrecks I need to be able to help her salvage her mothering even if we cannot
salvage breastfeeding. I do my best to honor her as a woman and be open to
where she is and hopefully help her along, but I won't drag her kicking and
screaming and add to her pain by belittling her experience or making her feel
inadequate.
I will not lie, I will not cover up a lie, I will not make believe the
misinformation she was given is correct. Hence my serious concerns with 'do not
contradict' . I will not allow a mother to be told something that is
detrimental to her breastfeeding or mothering experience and not provide the
alternative information she has a right to know. I will always choose to tell the
mother what other information is available and let her decide what to do with
the knowledge. To do less is patronizing and shows disrespect to her
intelligence and ability to make her own life choices.
When I feel at risk for burning out, I take a day off. Leave a message on
my voice mail for other help available and put myself and my family first. I
have found a day of turning my brain off really helps.
My other huge personal code is to be open to changing my mind. To see that
there is more than one way to solve the same problem. To never assume my way
is the right way or the only way. To respect the different opinions and
styles of my colleagues even while I am adjusting their directions if the mother
and I find it necessary. To remain up to date on knowledge of lactation even
if what I am learning is so different from what we learned 20 years ago!
To honestly say "I do not know" if I don't.
I can't wait to read others personal codes and find new ones to add to my
own.
Best,
Pam MazzellaDiBosco, IBCLC, RLC
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