Many years ago, someone somewhere was talking about spoiling babies.
Someone said something along the lines of, Food Spoils, Babies Don't.  I
have used that over and over again in the years that I have worked with
Moms and families, in many different ways.  I tell them we even put the
food in special keepers, and it still spoils, but babies have needs,
just as we do.  Luckily, a little girl lived across the street from my
family, and she was an only child.  According to my family, she was
incredibly spoiled, and, indeed, by the time she turned 16 her parents
had bought her 5 cars.  But, my point was, that as a young adult, she
was just fine.  She was pleasant to be around, worked for a living,
married a hard working guy--all the things Americans use to weigh what a
person is.  She was also a great person to be with, and extremely nice.
Most of us know someone who seemed very "spoiled"  as an infant and
child, and usually they are just fine.  I think they must have gotten
something they need--as we all strive to give our children.  Take from
this whatever might help--it has helped me with some nurses, some
parents, some grandparents and some just interested folks.  To be
honest, I really don't think the problem is "spoiling" but the problem
is not setting limits and using "loving discipline".  I could go on and
on about this subject, but it would turn into a rant.  I'll go back to
lurking...
Sue Kasten
Dexter, Oregon, USA--and we got the Winter Wonderland for New Year's Day!

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