Priscilla--

Please consider talking to her face to face.

I'm almost certain if you speak to her directly you will
better able to convey not only your thoughts but the
level of concern and sincerity.

There were lessons taught on both sides; a face-to-face
discussion will only deepen their meaning for both of you.

K. Koncelik
PP Doula
BF Peer Counselor--LLLI




On Friday, November 7, 2003, at 11:05  PM, priscilla tansley wrote:

> I had a terrible experience yesterday that I need to share with some
> sympathetic ears.  I was given the privilege of teaching a small group
> of
> med-surg nurses who wish to cross train to OB, about breastfeeding.  I
> asked
> around at the beginning about their previous experience with
> breastfeeding
> and one of the young nurses told us that her experience was one of
> failure,
> four months prior when she had her first baby.  She was unable to get
> him to
> take the breast and the only lactation consultant available at that
> hospital
> was unfortunately away on vacation.  She left the hospital pumping and
> bottle feeding ebm for a month before she stopped.
>
> I began the talk mostly showing how to latch a baby and talking about
> feeding cues etc.  At some point I resorted to our class outline that
> we use
> in our breastfeeding class for expectant moms.  While I gave the list
> of
> advantages of breastfeeding, she became visibly upset and then promptly
> left.  I felt and still do feel awful.  I could have been more
> sensitive and
> played down some of the more touchy-feely advantages...I think it was
> those
> that really blew her away.  I got her phone number and called and left
> an
> apology on her answering machine.
>
> It's probably a good thing that we work different shifts on different
> floors.  (She has worked there for three years and looked unfamiliar
> to me).
> Don't think she'll choose to cross train now.
>
> Anyway, I'm not quite sure what to do with this now.  It certainly was
> a
> lesson on thinking before speaking.  I sure wish that I could go back
> and do
> it all (right) over again.  It feels awful to have hurt someone so
> much.
>
> Priscilla Tansley RN, IBCLC
>
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As always . . . .
        Wishing you all the best!
--K

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