After all this talk about modest nursing, I had a question today, I have
*never* heard before in my 10 years of working with mothers.  A mother
expecting her 4th called and wanted to know how to get breastfeeding off to
a good start; she had not nursed her others.  When I recommended she nurse
right after the birth, she was horrified because her parents and inlaws and
children would be there for the birth and she didn't want them to see her
nursing.  It just floored me that she was delighted to have them there for
the actual birth, but said she was a very private person and didn't want
them to see her feed the baby.

I think I handled it alright.  I explained the importance for her and the
babe of nursing right away and recommended she attend LLL meetings to become
more comfortable with breastfeeding.  What really convinced her is that if
she keeps the baby skin to skin feeding her instead of passing her around
the family, the baby may not have to spend hours in the warmer.  She thought
all babies had to spend hours in the warmer.  Also, it turns out she was
very embarrassed by a nurse who tried to help her latch on her second child
and handled her breasts a lot and the baby very roughly and felt embarrassed
to have someone handle her breasts in front of her family.

Melanie

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