Once again, the positive is affirmed by Kathy Dettwyler, who wrote:

> And once you have a child, the marriage should take second place behind the 'family' --
> parents and kids together.
>
In my world view, rather than focus on the male vs. female (difference,
opposition, gender roles), I prefer to look at the mother / child bond
as the basis for all other relationships. The child is different, unique
but always connected. BTW, my husband says that growing up in that kind
of society does not make males feel undermined, because they are all
sons of somebody, with a place in the primary relationship. However,
admittedly the importance we place on our spousal role comes second to
our roles as parents... it's what we spend most of our time thinking
about, in fact. If your attention is on the family, it doesn't feel
"inconvenient" to have children take up more space in your life and
heart than Ezzo, Ferber etc. would have you do.
Jo-Anne

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