Dr. Mimi,

It doesn't sound like you've been eaten, although the bear is rustling
around in the bushes.

I work in a small peds practice where there's plenty of bears. I've just
chosen my ammunition carefully [out of necessity of being new].  The 2 docs
and 1 np I work with fall to the "let em cry it out" and "don't sleep with
your kids" side of the issue - obviously not the view I take.  I tell
parents that there's a lot of different ways to raise kids and that
different HCPs have different views. I tell them about attachment parenting
and talk about cultural "norms" [what our culture says we do vs. what people
actually do but don't mention]. I mention that babies cries are meant to
elicit a reaction from us and that babies whose needs are taken care of cry
less. Then at the end I tell them that they need to do what "feels right" to
them so they don't feel regrets later on. A lot of parents are "asking
permission" to do what they "feel" is right, despite a large part of our
culture that says it isn't right... and I think they can "read" us pretty
well, knowing who will give them the answer they were looking for. So don't
think that just because your colleague spouted the Ezzo philosophy, that
your viewpoint was in any way diminished. [Remember, she asked you]

Gail
Gail Hertz, MD, IBCLC [who just threw out a whole bunch of formula
literature while setting up a breastfeeding bulletin board and literature
center  in the most prime location in the office.]

DR. Mimi writes: At noon
> conference one colleague was asking me what to do with her one year old
who
> doesn't sleep.  We turned to another colleague with four children (also a
> neonatologist) who told us that the big mistake we have made was holding
our
> children to sleep and feeding them at night after a month of age.  He was
> very emphatic that babies need to learn how to console themselves instead
of
> being picked up by their parents after one month of age (yes a devotee of
> Ezzo).  I was able to slip in a bit about attachment parenting before she
> left.

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