Here is a note from a long time subscriber. I post this again as a result
of Chris's post re: bashing. However, while emphasizing that we don't need
or allow bashing on Lactnet, I ask that we try to enjoy and contribute to
the healthy discussion, and not have too thin a skin when it comes to
comments. Pat, for instance, from NJ, is a nurse practitioner. She, as with
many other health care professionals, has a hefty job in promoting
breastfeeding in what is basically a non-breastfeeding-friendly culture and
medical establishment. This is nothing personal, but is a fact that many
many professionals who support mothers deal with worldwide.
So, let's have healthy discussions, spirited ones are good...and let's
debate without feeling maligned, if possible..because that is when we lose
the flavor and merit of our work together.
Thanks Kathleen
I take this as a reminder to us all about the rules of the "road" with
regard to Lactnet. Please take a minute to read and think of these things
as you post. Remember, Lactnet began as a way for us to help each other
with hard lactation cases, issues. It is a venue to do this still, and we
need to think of that with each post. This is not aimed at any one person,
and is just a gentle reminder, which will be repeated
periodically. Critics in this note refer to those who nitpick, or pounce
upon notes in an argumentative fashion.
Please take time to consider civility, and also to try and be of genuine
help to those who are requesting it. I have not been as helpful as I can
lately, because I am swamped with work trying to help my elderly mother
make a move to Vermont ( near me) , from Connecticut. I know we all face
these challenges.
".... Lactnet went so long without succumbing to the pitfalls of other
groups. I try to see what the "critics" are trying to do. I usually think
that they lack self
confidence, so they read the posts from others with an eye to picking
something to challenge so that they look superior. Maybe they aren't
capable of discerning the spirit of a post, but see only the minute details
that they choose to
pounce on. There is a lot of "posturing."
Recently I read a few days of posts from 1997, and was amazed at the
genuine help that we gave to each other. One could ask a question and
reveal what she did in a case, and no one attacked her as incompetent of
wrong headed. There wasn't always agreement, but there was maturity.
A couple of our state legislators have begun a "Civility Campaign." They
are disturbed by the lack of civility and co-operation that they see
increasing in the legislative bodies. They asked each member of the House
and Senate to sign a pledge to treat each other civilly and with respect.
I hope that it is effective. Perhaps the harshness on Lactnet is a
reflection of a general growing incivility in the culture (s). Real
answers to questions seem few and far between. Perhaps others, like I, are
writing privately more frequently. "
Kathleen B. Bruce, BSN, IBCLC co-owner Lactnet, Indep. Consultant
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