I think that people are afraid of babies being "demanding, manipulative,
stubborn" because those were the names they were called as babies and young
children when they tried to get their needs met. We have so many people who
are adults today who were raised with very little affection. They didn't get
held, or fed every time they wanted to, and I think they remember (in an
unconscious way) how they longed for that. They feel that if they start
"giving in" to a baby, then they won't have enough to give - the baby's
needs will overwhelm them. But in reality, it's their own (still present but
unmet) needs that feel overwhelming.

I know, it sounds like psychobabble. But I think it's true.

Teresa Pitman
Guelph Ontario

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