My recent breastfeeding struggles were witnessed day in and day out by my husband.  It started off as "our babies" problem and then v-e-r-y- s-l-o-w-l-y morphed into "My" problem as he felt more and more helpless and as someone very aptly put it, he could not solve it- so he wished I could just get over it.
   
  Over the 8 month ordeal the absolute best thing I ever did was tell my husband EXACTLY what he could do to help me at any given time.  
   
  MANY times he was trying to be helpful and would do the "wrong" thing  etc.etc. so the more specific the better: wash dishes, take baby so I can shower, wash pump parts.  Remind them both that his "help" may need to be different with each new day.  So keep lines of communication open.  The more I critiqued my husbands help- I got LESS offers accordingly- warn mommies of this!
   
  Also, remind dad that mom might be under stress, and, just like in labor, may need to tell you her needs EXACTLY, without a lot of honey dripping!
   
  Mary Herrington, RN, IBCLC
  Texas

       
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