Jennifer writes:

Because  feeding competency lies with the infant, this would not be the case 
when birth  and feeding are part of a physiologic whole. When they are not, 
the mother can  regain her own competency by focusing on the "needs" of the 
older child, while  being removed, even sometimes dismissive or callous to the 
needs of the  newborn. 



~~ Interesting. Even when the new one isn' t weaned, the pattern can be a  
real mind-boggler (for me).
Mom with toddler, 18-24 months I think, has new baby. First baby had  serious 
and chronic nursing issues but mom did manage to nurse. Mom is terrified  of 
neglecting in any way the first child for fear of causing emotional  problems. 
 Second baby comes, some nursing issues but not as serious.  Something some 
moms would consider not too problematic, but also perhaps  mom-prolonged in 
part. We had a real schedule to try to work around, mom  chose...
Life schedule: Newborn allowed to breastfeed between 9 AM and 8PM  only, baby 
nurse took baby upstairs and was not seen again til the next morning,  while 
mom focused on toddler and her husband and her own sleep. Baby received  
bottles of pumped milk during the absence. 
This seemed like a tough way to  work out nursing issues, but actually in 
time they did work out to the mom's  satisfaction and this mom went on to 
breastfeed that second little one with all  the limiting, for over a year, something 
she had not done with toddler/first  one. I got a call letting me know, which 
was nice.
I learned from that one!
 
Peace,
Judy  

Judy LeVan  Fram, PT, IBCLC, LLLL
Brooklyn, NY,  USA




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