I found it true of LLL moms who have peer support and encouragement to  
usually breastfeed subsequent child longer.  But, I'm always surprised  at moms who 
nurse the first for a year and then opt to bottle feed the next  because they 
don't feel they can sit down and nurse a newborn while managing a  toddler.  
These are usually moms who don't have peer support and little  outside help 
and just seem to be overwhelmed and think breastfeeding takes too  much time.  
Some of these moms aren't as overwhelmed as they are concerned  that they are 
doing the first baby an injustice by not being able to attend to  the first 
baby's every whim and want.  
 
We are in the instant gratification age and I see more mom just giving into  
ever whim their child has.  I'm not sure if this is because the mom is a  
product of the micro instant gratification age or it's the guilt of going  back to 
work and only having 2-3 hours of waking time with her children  that makes 
parents more apt to give instant gratification to their children  usually in 
the form of material things.  Over the 31 years, I've done  lactation support, I 
definite see trends of change in social behavior in  parenting.  We certainly 
have a bigger job than helping with  breastfeeding.  More parents today need 
parenting skills.  The breast,  lots of hugs and focused attention are instant 
gratification that builds trust  and relationships, not reaching for material 
things to meet the child's  needs.
 

Pat  Lindsey, IBCLC




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