I found it true of LLL moms who have peer support and encouragement to usually breastfeed subsequent child longer. But, I'm always surprised at moms who nurse the first for a year and then opt to bottle feed the next because they don't feel they can sit down and nurse a newborn while managing a toddler. These are usually moms who don't have peer support and little outside help and just seem to be overwhelmed and think breastfeeding takes too much time. Some of these moms aren't as overwhelmed as they are concerned that they are doing the first baby an injustice by not being able to attend to the first baby's every whim and want. We are in the instant gratification age and I see more mom just giving into ever whim their child has. I'm not sure if this is because the mom is a product of the micro instant gratification age or it's the guilt of going back to work and only having 2-3 hours of waking time with her children that makes parents more apt to give instant gratification to their children usually in the form of material things. Over the 31 years, I've done lactation support, I definite see trends of change in social behavior in parenting. We certainly have a bigger job than helping with breastfeeding. More parents today need parenting skills. The breast, lots of hugs and focused attention are instant gratification that builds trust and relationships, not reaching for material things to meet the child's needs. Pat Lindsey, IBCLC **************It's Tax Time! Get tips, forms, and advice on AOL Money & Finance. (http://money.aol.com/tax?NCID=aolprf00030000000001) *********************************************** Archives: http://community.lsoft.com/archives/LACTNET.html To reach list owners: [log in to unmask] Mail all list management commands to: [log in to unmask] COMMANDS: 1. To temporarily stop your subscription write in the body of an email: set lactnet nomail 2. To start it again: set lactnet mail 3. To unsubscribe: unsubscribe lactnet 4. To get a comprehensive list of rules and directions: get lactnet welcome