You all are the ones who read into my statement which was just a statement 
of fact. There was nothing at all inflammatory about what I said and I 
certainly was not implying anything out of the oprdinary. There are women 
(who for whatever reason) just should not breastfeed. I was not labeling 
anyone or any disbility or malady. Some women make the choice NOT to 
breastfeed. Nowhere did I refer to someone else making a choice for someone. 
That's something someonhe else has added because they ahve read more into 
a statement than what is there.

 It is very true that is some of you could see some of the new mothers we 
see, you would understand why it is good that there is an alternative to 
breastfeeding. Nowhere did I mention retardation or any other factor which 
might limit a mother's ability (or desire) to care for her newborn. Those were 
statements that others on this list developed out of one simple statement. 
That's how rumors start.

I stand behind what I said originally and will contuinue to do so. If you want 
to place blame back on me (as some of you usually do anyway) for 
statements others have made, then go ahead. This is a common practice on 
Lactnet anyway; often starting with you, Rachel.

There is a big difference between advocating for a mother and baby versus 
advocating for a process (in this case breastfeeding). With some here, it is 
breastfeed at all costs, regardless of what other factors may be going on. 
When one advocates for a process at all costs, much harm can potentially be 
done to those involved.

You show me, Rachel where I (personally) specifically referred to any 
disability. It is YOU (or others) who have read something into my use of the 
word "calibre." It is true that others took my statement and ran with it (hence 
the initiation of yet another Lactnet tangent), so to speak. But no where did I 
make any statement whatsoever about who should breastfeed and who should 
not. Those statements would have come from others more vocal here who 
spend an inordinate amount of time looking for subtle hidden innuendos when 
there aren't any. So if you are going to point fingers, at least make sure you 
are pointing them in the right direction. One can pretty much be reassured 
that those who went off on this particular tangent to which you are referrring 
are the same posters who do this on a regular basis, no matter what the 
thread.

I think that's quite funny that your e-mail to me was returned to you as spam. 
Maybe the computer agrees with me. That's a great laugh to start off today.

I wrote the words you see in the original post and that is that. What would 
you be waiting to hear? Why the big need to pull me in and enmesh me in 
another discussion. There is no underlying message at all. If you think there is 
then you tell ME what it is because I sure as heck have no idea.

Betsy Riedel RNC, IBCLC

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