Marie If I had my wits about me I would have to say "I am not a social worker, I am a lactation consultant. The mother made the decision to bf and I am here to help her until and after the adoption. If the adoptive mom wants to bf I will help her as well." "The pros/cons of bf before the adoption were probalby discussed when the mother was considering the adoption choice. Now that the mother has made her decision, I am the appropriate person to assist her." "BTW, the adoption has not occurred yet and that is the mother's decision as well. It is not my place to counsel her to keep the baby or place it for adoption." Laurie Laurie Wheeler, RN, MN, IBCLC Violet Louisiana, USA mailto:[log in to unmask] Get Your Private, Free Email at http://www.hotmail.com