there aren't always warning signs, i am sure, because some of us need to appear to be coping, etc., but here in my area there was a double murder of children by a mother. she had been hospitalized already and discharged after treatment for this, and was not at all improved (do i suspect something to do with managed care?). when she was discharged, she was left home all day alone with her children. her husband took them all out one day for ice cream, and asked the mother what she was dreaming of the most, and she replied, "to drive the car into the lake with me and the children in it." everyone feels terribly sad that this tragedy happened, and all the women from her mother's support group (NOT a bf support group) were really sorry they hadn't made it over yet to help her out (baby was about three months old, i believe). i can't understand why the father would then get up in the morning and go off to work all day after hearing the mother say that. what more of a warning sign would one need? if a babysitter said that about your children, would you leave them alone? it's a very sad story. carol brussel IBCLC