IMHO, trying to describe postpartum life with a baby is like trying to describe an orgasm to someone who hasn't had one. Or like trying to describe breathing underwater with SCUBA equipment to someone who's never been in a bathtub, lake, river, etc. Birth is a bridge to a new dimension, a new way of life - and cannot be totally anticipated no matter how much planning, explaining, videos, etc. happen beforehand. "To those who understand, no explanation is necessary. To those who don't understand, no explanation is possible." (Tom Peters, I think) Raising a baby teaches you a new way of life, including patience, like nothing else can. Think of your worst supervisors at work - I bet they were mostly childless and over-40. They just don't get it. Linda J. Smith, BSE, FACCE, IBCLC Bright Future Lactation Resource Centre Dayton, OH USA http://www.bflrc.com