Linda, my second daughter, who nursed till 4, overheard me on the phone talking to a mom about relactating--just nurse the baby often and your milk can return. Alison was interested in doing likewise. I told her that 4 years was a long time and that we had so many other ways to be close. I named them. She said, "Will I ever do anything in my whole life that will be as much fun as having 'milkies'"? I replied, "I didn't have milkies and I don't know how much fun it is, but I'll bet that nursing your own babies will come close." She smiled big and said, "I hope so." She seemed satisfied with the snuggling, rocking, and foot tickling that we enjoyed. Also much later, in high school, she wasn't real thrilled with kissing, and she worried that too long at the breast had satisfied her oral needs *too* well and that that was the cause of her problem. I told her that I was sure it wasn't. (This was based on extensive research, of course.) Well sure enough, as time went on and fellows became more appealing, all was resolved. Patricia Gima, IBCLC Milwaukee mailto:[log in to unmask]