Nancy and all, I've always thought there should be a handout for the grandparents of a BF baby. It's probably a very different experience, in the beginning especially, grandparenting a baby who is nursing. This pamphlet could be very upbeat and congratulatory. After all it is more fun to hold a soft-skinned, cuddly, meaty-thighed and sweet-smelling baby who doesn't need to cry from the pain of formula-intolerance, constipation, earaches, etc. Of course, BF is no guarantee that none of these things will ever happen, but this is obviously a baby's best shot at minimizing them( we all know that some BF babies cry from certain diet-related things, but how much worse it would be on artificial mother's milk (AMM?) Grandparents can learn that BF is a behavior with many long-term benfits for both their little grandbaby, and for their smart and determined daughter or daughter-in-law. They can be helped to see how they can be very helpful in many other ways, even if they are not feeding the baby themselves, and that 6 months comes pretty quick. I personally promised my mother-in-law, who lived nearer than my parents and seemed keen on it, that she would be the FIRST person to offer my son food when he was ready. Anytime we were at her house I always let her set him up and watch him at the table. It seemed to help her not feel that we were excluding her so much. I think a resource for grandparents is a wonderful idea. Mentioning the NORMAL close bond of a mom and nursling, and some of the physical, physiological, emotional, cognitive, ecological and financial benefits (whew, ) would help any grandparent to realize how lucky they are that their little grandchild is being nursed. "Your granchild is nursing? -Congratulations!! He or she is off to a wonderful start...etc" I love to write and if you want to toss some ideas around I'd love to be involved. This is an opportunity to prevent some of the well-meant but insidious comments which can hurt a new mom's self-confidence. Describing what BF babies stool look like, -they are not indicative of diarhhea, how often they need to eat - every two hours does not mean the milk is too thin or too scanty, how BF is a total sensory experience-babies need close, frequent contact,etc. not just "food". This would be a great tool to give out in a prenatal BF class. When I was pregnant with my first, my husband and I went to a BF class and grandparents were invited free. My in-laws attended and I think it helped a lot to hear things from someone else besides me, and to anticipate certain questions and concerns. All the best, Judy Fram <[log in to unmask]> Where Peewee baseball swings into action this Saturday, Brooklyn,NY