Dear Evonne, Our sympathies are with you about your sister giving up breastfeeding and your sweet little nephew missing out. What your sister did was protect the long term, close, relationship with her "significant other". Even though you are her sister, she is not living with you daily nor dependant on you for her day-to-day physical and emotional support. Unfortunately some long term relationships often take priority over lots of other things -- correct information -- the well being of the baby -- the relationship with other family members -- the mom's own wellbeing. This has nothing to do with facts or information. It has to do with emotions, dependance, and psychology. Love yourself. Love your sister and her baby. It is the hardest when it is someone close to you. Jane Bradshaw RN, BSN, IBCLC Lynchburg, VA << To skip details her significant other was not supportive and so she GAVE UP! My feelings are if I can not influence this person with my own 14 years of bf my children, and my 10yrs as a IBCLC, than what hope do I/we as professionals have of influencing strangers in the VERY short time we have contact with clients? If any of you have experienced similar heartbreak please let me hear from you. Personally or here on lactnet. I am learning to love my nephew and not hold it against him, but I admit it is different. He is not as soft and relaxed, reminds me of long term NICU babies. Thanks for letting me vent. Evonne >>