Dear Jacquie, Had a similar situation to the one you describe at a LLL meting about 8 years ago. Husband was adamant that his wife join him for a golfing weekend. Moms in my group spent the entire meeting telling her how to talk her husband into posponing the trip, or taking the baby along with (perhaps with a sitter) and so forth. None of us experienced nursing mothers could imagine leaving our babies. We didn't give her much info about pumping, etc, if she did decide to go. Fortunately, her doctor did tell her what to do and she did go on the trip, pumped, and returned to continue breastfeeding her young baby. She did not come back to any more LLL meetings. I happened to run into her later around town and asked how things were. I think this comes back again to giving women lots of information, including how to pump while separated from baby, and empowering her to make the best decision for her family. Of course, I don't mean that we should minimize the problems she might encounter or fail to speak up for the baby's needs. We should even tell her that baby might even refuse the breast upon her return. But we cannot understand her family dynamics and must try not to get emotionally involved. I'm off for a long weekend in Phoenix so won't get to hear the rest of this thread but hope this helps. Julia Griffith, LLL in Toledo